...for a different kind of girl

silent surburban girl releasing her voice, not yet knowing what all she wants to say about her life and the things that make it spin. do you have to be 18 to be here? you'll know when i know.

Wednesday, January 25, 2012

'and when you think you've had enough of this life...'

...your husband will walk in the door an hour after you thought he was leaving for a three night work stint and inform you he's been fired.

Fired.

And other words that start with the letter 'F.'

And also no insurance.

Two kids.

One house.

Lots of tears.

It feels like this life never ends.

37 Comments:

Blogger for a different kind of girl said...

Oh, and let's note for noting's sake that there is $42.23 in our checking account right now. Noted.

Wednesday, January 25, 2012 10:54:00 AM  
Blogger Lisa @ Trapped In North Jersey said...

oh, fadkog, the hits just keep on coming. I'm so sorry.

Wednesday, January 25, 2012 11:03:00 AM  
Blogger Em said...

So sorry to hear!!

Wednesday, January 25, 2012 11:05:00 AM  
Blogger Bijoux said...

Oh, wow...I wasn't even sure you were still together. I'm am so, so sorry.

Wednesday, January 25, 2012 11:14:00 AM  
Anonymous Mandy G. said...

I'm so sorry. I wish I could help.

Wednesday, January 25, 2012 11:16:00 AM  
Blogger justmakingourway said...

Oh, honey. That's a suck to say the least. I'm so sorry. I'll be thinking of you guys.

Wednesday, January 25, 2012 11:28:00 AM  
Blogger Leslie said...

Oh my gosh, the shock must be overwhelming. And the fear. I am so sorry. It's like starting from the bottom and building up all over again, from every angle for you right now, isn't it? I'm sure that doesn't even begin to cover it.

I know this sounds cliche, which is why it has taken me ten minutes to type it, but I am praying for you. And for ways to help. I really am.

Wednesday, January 25, 2012 11:53:00 AM  
Blogger MadameQueen said...

Well shit. That sucks and other understatements. Thinking of you guys and sending prayers your way. Email me if you want and I'll either buck you up or curse with you -- whatever you feel like doing at that moment.

Wednesday, January 25, 2012 11:54:00 AM  
Blogger A3 said...

i don't know you, and you don't know me - but i'm still sorry. that really sucks. hang in there, okay? and the silver lining to scraping the barrel? - the only place left to go is up.

again, hang in there.

Wednesday, January 25, 2012 12:23:00 PM  
Blogger Craig said...

Oh, dear. . . I will be praying for you and your family.

I have some understanding of what you're going thru. Hang in there; He's got all the hairs on your heads counted. . .

{{{hugs}}}

Wednesday, January 25, 2012 1:34:00 PM  
Blogger Mrs. Pretty said...

Sucks. Sucks sucks sucks. I'm very sorry & sending good thoughts to you all.

Wednesday, January 25, 2012 2:07:00 PM  
Blogger Sailor said...

oh, shit. And a lot of words that start with "F", too. I'm so sorry, seems like life is just whacking you lately.

My prayers are with you, and warm thoughts and cyber hugs, wish I could help somehow

Wednesday, January 25, 2012 2:29:00 PM  
Blogger Whitemist said...

there is a reallity that this life does end, but we don't and things do get better, even tho we can not see them now.

Wednesday, January 25, 2012 3:09:00 PM  
Blogger Just Me said...

I have no words. This just sucks, and I can only guess how overwhelming it feels. But sending you all the hugs, supportive thoughts, and prayers that I can.

Wednesday, January 25, 2012 3:35:00 PM  
Anonymous Chag said...

I've been sitting here for awhile trying to think of something to say to make you feel better. Nothing's coming to mind.

I'm so, so sorry to hear this. You guys will be in my thoughts. I hope he's able to find another job soon. Like, tomorrow.

Wednesday, January 25, 2012 4:41:00 PM  
Blogger Always Home and Uncool said...

Does Mitt Romney need another wife? I hear he's loaded.

Don't know what else to say but here's hoping this means the start of a true FADKOG turnaround in 2012. K

Wednesday, January 25, 2012 6:03:00 PM  
Blogger Xavier said...

So sorry, we went through that just a bit ago.

Wednesday, January 25, 2012 7:18:00 PM  
Blogger Tajalude said...

:( Hugs to you, Fadkog. We've been through it, too. It sucks. Hang in there.

Wednesday, January 25, 2012 7:54:00 PM  
Blogger Anna See said...

Oh crap. I am so sorry.

Wednesday, January 25, 2012 9:14:00 PM  
Blogger middle child said...

"It feels like this life never ends." Exactly. I know that feeling. All you can do is take it one day at a time, one thing at a time. I wish you well. Peace.

Thursday, January 26, 2012 12:17:00 AM  
Blogger Jessica said...

I'm so sorry. If there's anything a total stranger can do for you, let me know? I really hope things get better soon.

Thursday, January 26, 2012 12:19:00 AM  
Blogger WILLIAM said...

That just sucks.

Thursday, January 26, 2012 8:44:00 AM  
Anonymous Karen said...

Fired? or Laid Off? Big difference in the Able To Get Another Job department. Also in the Easier To Get Unemployment department. Either way, it is sucky and I am so sorry you're having to go through it. Look into COBRA if affordable and if not, look into Healthy Families for your kids.

http://www.healthyfamiliesenrollment.org/index.aspx

It will make you feel better if you find ways to take charge of your situation. I'll be praying for you.

Thursday, January 26, 2012 8:58:00 AM  
Blogger Meg said...

Balls balls balls. I am thinking many F words for you. That sucks. You're in my thoughts.

Thursday, January 26, 2012 9:02:00 AM  
Anonymous Karen said...

Eeeeek! Turns out Healthy Families is a California-only program. So sorry! I thought it was federal! But perhaps your state has something similar. Hugs.

Thursday, January 26, 2012 9:02:00 AM  
Blogger lime said...

oh god, fadkog. i am so sorry for this roller coaster you are on. i won't pretend to have words...only prayers.

Thursday, January 26, 2012 10:03:00 AM  
Blogger for a different kind of girl said...

I am sorry that I haven't had the chance to respond to each of you individually yet. I hope to do so, but yesterday, and so far today, has been a blue of sadness and anger and 'now what?' He Who Shall Not Be Referred To As Tool Man Any Longer and I have a lot to do over the next several days, so if you feel like bearing with me, I will continue to appreciate that, and all of you. Thank you.

Thursday, January 26, 2012 11:02:00 AM  
Blogger Leslie said...

You're so sweet for taking the time to comment to your readers... I don't think I'm the only one trying to think of tangible, helpful ideas. Hang in there, for what "hang in there" is worth... Not much. I know.

Thursday, January 26, 2012 12:28:00 PM  
Blogger tysdaddy said...

I've had to come home and tell my wife that same thing in the past. Fired. Laid off three times. Shit. Cling to each other. Work on making it work, and let him know that you are there regardless. He'll need that . . .

Friday, January 27, 2012 8:32:00 AM  
Blogger Julie said...

Another comment from a stranger ~ I know exactly how you're feeling. Happened to us almost 3 years ago. The Mister finally found a job 2000 miles away. We can't sell our house in this market and are too "old" to walk away and start over. We see each other maybe 7 times a year because of the expense of a mortgage and an apartment, plus the plane fare. Hell, maybe that's why we are still married! Hang in there!

Friday, January 27, 2012 12:57:00 PM  
Blogger cat said...

I don't even know what to say, fadkog. :( Just lots of other words that begin with the letter "F".

*hugs*

Saturday, January 28, 2012 9:43:00 AM  
Anonymous Brian said...

Words fail. I know from experience that you CAN get through this. Hang tough, and if you can think of anything your innerwebz friends can do to help - speak up!

Sunday, January 29, 2012 12:19:00 AM  
Blogger Logical Libby said...

If you want I will be panicked and depressed for you -- just if you need a day off.

Keep your head up.

Monday, January 30, 2012 4:00:00 PM  
Anonymous Pam said...

I'm just so so so so sorry. I don't even have a lame platitude to offer. I'm just going to keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

Tuesday, January 31, 2012 12:53:00 AM  
Blogger Tracey - Just Another Mommy Blog said...

I am so sorry. I KNOW what that feels like and it involves a lot of crying...

Wednesday, February 01, 2012 6:00:00 PM  
Anonymous kelley @magnetoboldtoo said...

xx :(

Thursday, February 02, 2012 1:35:00 AM  
Blogger anymommy said...

Ugh. I want to reach out. Take you out to dinner, for coffee something. I'm so sorry.

Friday, February 03, 2012 1:56:00 AM  

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